Desire. Boundaries. Self-Worth. Discernment.
My name is Jade.
I grew up around sex work. It was never taboo to me. It was familiar. Strip clubs were part of my childhood landscape, right alongside strong, complicated women who knew how to survive in a world that didn’t exactly make that easy.
Because of that, I learned early how attraction works. How money moves. How confidence can be real and still be armor. What I didn’t learn, at least not early on, were things like boundaries, consent, or what it actually looks like to feel safe in your own body. Those lessons came later. Some of them the hard way.
For a long time, I believed sex was power.
Turns out money is power, and sex is often just the bargaining chip people use to feel less disposable.
For years, my sense of worth was tangled up in being wanted. I confused being desired with being valued. Easy mistake when no one hands you a different blueprint. I learned how to perform and give pleasure before I learned how to check in with myself. That shaped my relationships, my choices, and how I understood intimacy for a long time.
This site isn’t an apology tour. It’s not shock content. And it’s definitely not performative sex positivity.
Jaded Pleasures exists because I believe feeling good can be honest, grounded, and reclaimed without pretending our histories didn’t happen.
I’ve worked in multiple corners of the sex industry. I’ve been a dominatrix. I’ve worked in strip clubs. I’ve sold and educated around sex toys and sexual health. I’ve been with men and women. I’ve been married to a woman, divorced, and remarried to a man. I’ve lived through addiction, trauma, broken relationships, and the slow, uncomfortable process of unlearning patterns that once kept me alive but no longer serve me.
I’m also a wife. A mother. And a woman in her thirties who is still figuring out how to be present in her own body without turning everything into a performance. Progress is uneven. That’s fine. I’m not selling perfection here.
What I write about lives at the intersection of feeling good, psychology, survival, and discernment.
What You’ll Find Here
You’ll find honest conversations about intimacy and feeling good that don’t rely on shock value or fake confidence. Writing rooted in lived experience, not theory. Humor when it fits. Depth when it matters. Language that sounds like something a real person would say out loud over coffee.
You’ll find reflections on attraction, lust, boundaries, money, power, and autonomy. Stories about outgrowing survival patterns without shaming the versions of ourselves that needed them. Feeling good discussed as something personal and contextual. Not a performance. Not a goalpost. Not something you owe anyone.
You’ll also find product recommendations from time to time. Not because something will “change your life,” but because it helped me slow down, feel present, or reconnect with my body. If it’s here, it’s because it made sense for me. You’re allowed to decide if it makes sense for you.
Mostly, you’ll find language for experiences a lot of women have but don’t usually hear described honestly.
What You Won’t Find Here
You won’t find pressure to be liberated, fearless, kinky, healed, or endlessly horny. You won’t be told that discomfort is growth, that pain is sexy, or that you should be grateful for attention that costs you your peace.
You won’t find trauma packaged as inspiration, or confidence sold as a personality trait. And you definitely won’t find me pretending to have everything figured out. I don’t. I just ask better questions than I used to.
I’m not here to tell you what to do with your body.
I’m here to help you think more clearly about why you do it.
If you grew up fast, learned survival early, or feel like your past disqualifies you from softness, you’re probably in the right place. If being wanted ever felt like proof that you mattered. If you’re tired of performing confidence and ready for something that feels steadier.
You’re not broken.
You’re not late.
And you don’t have to erase your history to deserve feeling good.
This is Jaded Pleasures.
Jaded Pleasures 